How to be “BOLD” and Increase Your Confidence at Conferences and Events
First, it’s really all about your attitude. Practice your posture. Let the excitement show in your eyes. Be fully present when you’re meeting someone. Shake hands firmly. Trade business cards or connection information. Be prepared to ask pertinent questions.
Exercise 1: Stand Up Confidently
Pretend to be taller than you are
Have a long neck
Shoulder blades back
Put one foot forward
Think about being happy
Look proud, smile, feel “deserving”
Exercise 2: Introduce Yourself with a Proud Mindset
Practice saying OVERconfident statements in your head until you can say them with ease. Try these:
I am the President of the United States.
Yes, I cured cancer.
I am the first person to walk on Mars.
I ran an ultra marathon.
Next week I’m speaking at the U.N.
Oprah calls me for advice.
That little girl thinks I’m amazing.
I just shot a hole-in-one.
I have three Olympic gold medals.
Sound silly at first? Just remember, there are people out there who really say these things. Whatever your major accomplishments, own them.
The “B” in BOLD: Be You
Take lots of psychographic tests
Take care of yourself
Body – nutrition, exercise, skincare, health awareness. Track everything. Get apps. Keep a log. Tell your status and goals to a loved one.
Read a lot
The “O” in BOLD: Out There
Practice something that has nothing to do with your primary job
Be active on social media
Volunteer, join, partner with others
Blog, develop an opinion and a voice (about anything)
Nurture profound relationships. Build true friendships. Love deeply.
The “L” in BOLD: Leading Teams
Volunteer to lead a project once per quarter/season
Teach something in person or online
Research your company- become an expert of trivia
The “D” in BOLD: Drawing Crowds
Share, recommend, offer to promote other people
Develop your charisma
Have Great Resources:
Search “[your field] industry organizations/associations”
Join an industry group
Follow their social media
Interact with their social media
Mentorship- Have it and Get it:
Twitter search “[your field] professional”
Twitter search “[your field] future / aspiring / student”
Write a thank-you note to the author/manager/leader of the last book you read, conference you attended, class you took, business you like
Say thanks for supporting X. Tell them what you liked best (share something). Ask one question.
Become an Expert in Less Than an Hour:
Power Stance- Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are (21 min)
Connection is the Key to Conservation (18 min)
Our Monkey Mind (3 min)
The Science of Persuasion (12 min)
Tony Robbins Tips On Changing The Way You Feel (9 min)
Non Verbal Communication (3 min)
Become an Ongoing Expert Learner:
Google: Books / Women / Leaders
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This presentation was originally given at the 2016 College Women’s Leadership Conference at the University of Louisville.